When children realize that we are not here forever they start to ask questions like “where did Grandpa move” and similar. As parents we will tackle this according to our own knowledge and understanding. For religious people it isn’t all that difficult, we will just teach our children that which we know and believe. But if we don’t have a clue about the meaning of life and what we are doing here, the children’s’ questions can be quite troubling.
The first step would therefore seem to be figuring this out for ourselves. There are great sources for questions of life after death such as Rabbi Mizrachi. Once can also watch eyewitness movies where people who were clinically dead talk about the subject. What one must always ask is if the information can be tested as true or if it represents yet another fairy tale.
The idea of telling kids stories about death that aren’t true might not be so wise. As soon as the child realizes that it was all a story this could hurt the trust between the parent and child. In this situation it might be better to simply say that we don’t know.
One thing is for sure, if we panic about life and death questions and feel that it is very scary to even think of if there is an afterlife or not, our children will pick up on this. So if this is how you feel it could be a good idea to do something about it before the death questions come up…
If your child is overweight due to lifestyle issues your parenting is the key to solving this problem. You will have to get some professional help for your parenting style but if you get it you will certainly see that your child loses weight and stay healthy. It doesn’t have to be too difficult to help a child lose weight. The most important is to think about methods that you can incorporate in your house and lifestyle gradually and in a non-stressful way. The worst thing to do when a child is overweight is to start obsessing about it without actually starting any real program for change.
Find the Method that will Work for you!
You and your children are individuals and not every weight loss program for children will work or be suitable for your specific lifestyle. Therefore you should start by reviewing the options available to you. There are programs for weight loss for children that demand a lot of interaction. If you think that this will be good for your family then go for it. Other programs will demand more resolution from your side without anyone actually checking your child’s weight and progress week by week. Consider which type of weight loss program for kids that you find the most reasonable before you even sign up for more information.
When you are working together as a couple to lose weight or help a child lose weight you need to do so in a sensitive way and also be united. Make time to discuss your goals and methods without the child hearing it. Remember that a child can find it very hurtful to constantly hear that he or she is overweight. Ease the child’s burden by working together and only discuss the negative points out of earshot of the child. You should also discuss how you will talk to the child that needs to lose weight about these issues. When you are working on a parenting plan for weight loss that is persistent and unified it will have the most amazing results.
You will also benefit
By changing your parenting to help your child lose weight you will also benefit. It is very common that parents of overweight children are overweight too. Make the diet and lifestyle change together and grow from it. Walks and other activities meant to stimulate fat burn in the kid will also be healthy for you. Spend the time to get in shape and to get close. By working towards a goal together your family will become closely knit and this is strength for the future.
Remain positive, if you could add that weight on you can certainly get rid of it! For sure losing weight takes longer time than putting it on but with a proper parenting style this work will become a pleasure and give long term results. Realize that the changes you make today for your child to lose weight will also influence the parenting style of your child as he or she becomes a parent. You are setting new standards that coming generations will continue to thank you for!
It is summer and your kids are home. Camp is over and you have to be Mom, Teacher, Cook, Entertainer and everything else. Now, to get through these last of summer fun you need some good tricks up your sleeves. This will help you put up with the hot and sticky summer days and the nudging for Mom to get things moving. Here are some ideas for what you can do right now with your sweaty and bored brood and their friends.
Stay at Home
If you have AC and you’d rather stay home than face the heat you need to find some activity to entertain the kids with. Start by promising them a good game and a treat if they tidy up their room and the house. This means picking up their toys and putting them in place. You can help them and get some cleaning done at the same time. When the house looks nice again you will have better peace of mind to start some game with the kids.
Board games are great for days around the kitchen table. Place some snacks and cold drinks and sit down together. If you have smaller kids you can set them up in their baby chair or with something that will keep their hands busy like carrot sticks or stickers and paper. Start a good game and get into it. Kids love when Mom is in the game for real. No acts. Beat them and do it with a smile!
Good ideas for board games are Memory, Lotto games, dice games and creative games where you are supposed to guess things and come up with stories. A great idea here would be a game like Rory’s Story Cubes but only if the kids are big enough to make their own stories out of pictures.
When mixed ages are around the table you can bring out some coloring books. Let some kids color and other place stickers on the pictures. For older kids there are great games with paper and pen. One is very simple. Each person draws one part of a body without seeing what the others are adding. Each one folds the paper to cover the picture he made. In the end you get a very funny figure to laugh at together.
Face the Heat!
You can also head out to the park and let them burn off some steam. Ignore their objections and just go out to see what happens. Even older kids will find something fun by the swings so just get out there and see what you will find. Hopefully there will be other bored and hot Moms in the park to suffer the last days of summer with!
Every Mom learns a lot by trial and error but there are a few essential things that you can learn by the mistakes of others. If you have the knowledge of these before they happen to you, you can save a lot of money and preserve your sanity. It is really possible to make a long list of the essential things that a Mom must know. These are some of the crucial ones. If you think there should be more, you can add on in the comments!
Here it goes, the 7 essential things that every Mom must know:
1. Your child had a fever 2 days in a row without any signs of recovery. At this point you go straight to the doctor since this could indicate bacteria which in many cases should be treated by antibiotics.
2. Defrosting the Freezer
OK, so Dad can defrost as well as Mom but make sure that he knows that by using a knife or sharp object he can actually punch a hole in the fridge wall and no insurance will cover this. Simply turn off the power and let the ice melt till you can remove it by hand.
3. Raising your voice will not lower theirs!
Don’t scream at screaming kids. It is hard to follow this advice but try it. With time you will see that they take you much more seriously when you speak normal all though they are throwing a tantrum at you. Just wait till they are ready to listen and don’t waste your precious voice on screaming games!
4. Your child will not be in a diaper till 18.
Up with your chin! Your child will get out of the diapers eventually. Read the porry training advice here and keep on trying.
5. Pin worms, lice and their eggs hate water, soap, direct sunlight and all forms of regular cleanliness so this is your best weapon against them.
6. Positive re-enforcement has the same effect on your children as it has on you!
7. Negative re-enforcement has the same effect on your children as it has on you!
These were the 7 essential tips for every Mom. Hope you enjoyed them. Feel free to comment below.
Ahhh, finally some quiet. You’ve just finished the race of the evening and too tired to even feel guilty about not having read a good night story you slump down by the computer with a cup of tea and a cookie… make that two cookies! As the night becomes quiet and you feel your tired limbs scream for a shower and bed you reach for the mouse to click on to some parenting sites. This is the only time you have to see what you did wrong today…
Guilt or Motivation to Change
Parenting is not easy and too many expert sites online make us feel worse than what we did before. Children and motherhood was supposed to be a thrill and suddenly you can’t remember what it was you dreamed about a few years ago. If this sounds gloomy it is actually the reality for many parents. Everyone has moments of doubts and wishes foreasy and fast solutions. Let’s leave the sad thoughts and move on to some positive insights about your parenting, yes YOUR parenting!
If you are Reading This
If you are reading this despite your obvious need to head off to La La Land it means you are a pretty fine parent. No one tries to find some valuable advice on how to be a good parent unless they have an honest wish to do what is best for their kids. Pat yourself on the back, you are a caring parent who chooses to do some research to find the motivation and understanding for why things look the way they do in your family dynamics.
Kids are also People
Before you start looking for the solutions to why the 3 year old is always screaming you must remember that kids are people too. Each child has its own personality and mindset and this will influence how they deal with everyday life. You can’t expect your children to behave as if they were samples from a text book. They are real people and they need the space just as much as you. Consider this and don’t get so worked up the next time your living room is unfit for anyone’s ears to stay intact. Don’t join the screaming game.
The Rants and Chants are Normal
You didn’t go to bed yet? So here is one more thing for you to feel better as you get some sleep before the next call from the kid’s room. Your kids are normal also when they are obnoxious! This doesn’t mean that you need to let them behave any way they want. Good parenting is about showing them the way to a happy and healthy adult life. You just need to keep this in mind so that you won’t be angry when you correct them. If you correct and instruct them without frustration in your voice, the impact will be amazing. Just try it!
One last thing, don’t look at the neighbors. You have no idea what their family dynamics are really like or how the Mom over there is holding up behind the closed curtains. There is no reason for you to compare and create mind trolls from the stories of your imagination!
Sleep tight and have a silent night!