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How young is too young to go alone to Japan?

What would you say if your daughter had this great idea of going to Japan all by herself? She thought that adventures in Tokyo would make a lot of sense before life gets too serious. Personally, I think that this sounds like great fun. If it was me. If it is my daughter… well, that is another story.




Children traveling far away

I think that children that are 13 and older can travel abroad if they are accompanied by adults. It doesn’t have to be a parent. I myself took off on a choir tour far away from home when I was 13. It was an amazing adventure.

But Japan is so far away and not only that. It is so exotic. I have a feeling one could easily fall in love with that country. Another scary thought for a mom. If the child goes to Japan and then decides to stay there, what can be done?

The benefits of traveling to other countries

There are certain benefits of traveling abroad at a young age. The young person can learn a new language fast. If she stays for a few weeks it might be enough for a foundation of a language that she can continue to study at home.

Young people also form friendships easily. How lovely to have friends from other countries to stay in touch with as she grows up.

So how young is too young?

So getting back to my question. How young is too young to travel alone to Japan? I think that young children going with their parents is just fine. Likewise younger children and young adults going on some sort of tour.

But if we are talking about an older teenager going to Tokyo to stay many months in an apartment with others of the same age, it is too young to be under 20. But I would also think twice, and three times, to let her go so far away.

I think the solution would be to go together if that would be possible. Chicken mom me, but that’s how I feel!

Snowday – what should we do?

To some, the snow is not about sitting inside with little kids wondering what to do as they are struggling being without power. But for those of us lucky enough to have power and a comfortable warm home the question of how to entertain the little ones becomes highly relevant.

Here are some ideas for what to do when you can’t go out with the kids:

  • Create a game. Cut out cards and decorate them and make a game of this. You can make your own Taki or even a regular card deck for the fun of it.
  • Dance and sing. Make a fun dance or exercise class. If you don’t know what to do you can use the Internet and watch a Youtube video or two. Zumba, aerobics with balls, step… there are so many possibilities…
  • Draw. Sit down and draw and paint. This is something most kids enjoy. If you have more advanced stuff like window paint you can create fun messages to the snow on the window.
  • Cook and bake. Get busy in the kitchen and let the kids take part of the fun!
  • Organize. Take a closet and start organizing together sorting and discussing stuff as you go along.
  • Read a story. Or make one up by letting everyone fill in their part. You an also tell your kids something that happened when you were their age. Perhaps a story of being stuck in the snow…

Once the storm calms out there you can get dressed and go out to play. If it is evening you can make snow lanterns by the house to watch from your window as you round the day up with a steaming cup of hot cocoa.

Talking about Life after Death with Children

When children realize that we are not here forever they start to ask questions like “where did Grandpa move” and similar. As parents we will tackle this according to our own knowledge and understanding. For religious people it isn’t all that difficult, we will just teach our children that which we know and believe. But if we don’t have a clue about the meaning of life and what we are doing here, the children’s’ questions can be quite troubling.

The first step would therefore seem to be figuring this out for ourselves. There are great sources for questions of life after death such as Rabbi Mizrachi. Once can also watch eyewitness movies where people who were clinically dead talk about the subject. What one must always ask is if the information can be tested as true or if it represents yet another fairy tale.

The idea of telling kids stories about death that aren’t true might not be so wise. As soon as the child realizes that it was all a story this could hurt the trust between the parent and child. In this situation it might be better to simply say that we don’t know.

One thing is for sure, if we panic about life and death questions and feel that it is very scary to even think of if there is an afterlife or not, our children will pick up on this. So if this is how you feel it could be a good idea to do something about it before the death questions come up…

How your Parenting can influence the Weight of your Child

If your child is overweight due to lifestyle issues your parenting is the key to solving this problem. You will have to get some professional help for your parenting style but if you get it you will certainly see that your child loses weight and stay healthy. It doesn’t have to be too difficult to help a child lose weight. The most important is to think about methods that you can incorporate in your house and lifestyle gradually and in a non-stressful way. The worst thing to do when a child is overweight is to start obsessing about it without actually starting any real program for change.

Find the Method that will Work for you!

You and your children are individuals and not every weight loss program for children will work or be suitable for your specific lifestyle. Therefore you should start by reviewing the options available to you. There are programs for weight loss for children that demand a lot of interaction. If you think that this will be good for your family then go for it. Other programs will demand more resolution from your side without anyone actually checking your child’s weight and progress week by week. Consider which type of weight loss program for kids that you find the most reasonable before you even sign up for more information.

Unity

When you are working together as a couple to lose weight or help a child lose weight you need to do so in a sensitive way and also be united. Make time to discuss your goals and methods without the child hearing it. Remember that a child can find it very hurtful to constantly hear that he or she is overweight. Ease the child’s burden by working together and only discuss the negative points out of earshot of the child. You should also discuss how you will talk to the child that needs to lose weight about these issues. When you are working on a parenting plan for weight loss that is persistent and unified it will have the most amazing results.

You will also benefit

By changing your parenting to help your child lose weight you will also benefit. It is very common that parents of overweight children are overweight too. Make the diet and lifestyle change together and grow from it. Walks and other activities meant to stimulate fat burn in the kid will also be healthy for you. Spend the time to get in shape and to get close. By working towards a goal together your family will become closely knit and this is strength for the future.

Remain positive, if you could add that weight on you can certainly get rid of it! For sure losing weight takes longer time than putting it on but with a proper parenting style this work will become a pleasure and give long term results. Realize that the changes you make today for your child to lose weight will also influence the parenting style of your child as he or she becomes a parent. You are setting new standards that coming generations will continue to thank you for!